Sunday, July 11, 2010

Guilt

Ok, so knowing what I know about the emotional roller coaster we all call surrogacy, why do I feel so guilty? Why is it that when you meet someone that has a sad story (because let's face it people, everyone looking for a surrogate has one!), but they either don't fit the "mold" of who you would like to help, or you just don't feel a connection, you feel guilty for saying no? I know it feels personal, but it truly isn't supposed to be personal! Simply agreeing to meet a couple to see if you have a connection shouldn't mean that you are saying YES, right? It means that you are meeting to see if you have a connection. And if you don't, then you should have the freedom to say "I'm sorry, but we don't have a connection".

So why the guilt???

3 comments:

Membership Required said...

Jennifer, Might I say it might be due to the fact that you know just how amazing helping in this manner is. That enabling a couple to become parents is just, well I can't say from personal experience of what you did, but must be an awesome event. The guilt might come from that. That you know what could have been...it just wasn't meant to be. It's alright. I am sure they will find their "Jennifer."

Mormon Surrogate said...

Hi. I'm out looking for other surrogate bloggers to connect with.

Happy Friday! :)

Andrea said...

I'm thinking the "guilt" comes from having a big heart. That's all. :)

I'm looking forward to following along on your next adventure. I'm actually in the process of being matched myself. I would love to keep in touch with you!

--Andrea